[Selfless love] would have to mean that you derive no personal pleasure or happiness from the company and the existence of the person you love, and that you are motivated only by self-sacrificial pity for that person’s need of you. I don’t have to point out to you that no one would be flattered by, nor would accept, a concept of that kind. Love is not self-sacrifice, but the most profound assertion of your own needs and values. It is for your own happiness that you need the person you love, and that is the greatest compliment, the greatest tribute you can pay to that person.
Let us point out the falsehoods and misconceptions in this argument. Selfless love does not imply the giver receives no peronal pleasure. It means they expect no reciprocation. It is not the return of love that provides joy, it is the act of giving it. Calling it pity is building a straw man.
In this philosophy the greatest thing you can do is take from a person, not help them grow.
And fuck this hypocritical cunt.