should i come out to my mother?

Five of Cups

I want you to know that when I get a question like this I
take it very seriously. Please use what I say here as only a part of your own
wise internal decision making.

You are already feeling the loss of relationship to your mother.
Hiding who you are always puts a strain on relationships. You must factor this
into your decision, your relationship is already fucked up. Do you care if it
gets worse for a chance at it being better? Even if it does get worse, you must
not blame yourself.